Moving Forward after Loss
- This past season’s winners of The Voice, Girl Named Tom, recently shared an update for fans about how they’re doing following the recent loss of their father to a rare cancer and why they’re continuing to perform this week.
- Grief is an unavoidable and essential part of the healing process following the loss of a loved one to cancer. And one member of the SurvivorNet community tells us that moving forward after the loss does not mean you’re necessarily moving on.
- Everyone’s path of coping looks different. But things like time, therapy and support groups can help as you navigate the journey of grief.
Girl Named Tom was named the first trio to win NBC's The Voice during season 21. Like many bands, the trio of siblings Bekah Grace Liechty, 21, Joshua, 24, and Caleb, 26 did have an “artistic ubringing,” but it actually only formed after their father was diagnosed with a rare cancer in 2017.
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“Yeah, we have three shows the weekend after our father passed,” Caleb said in the video. “Which you may be wondering why we would do that. We are too, sort of.”
“But we want to be able to get them out of the way so that we can really throw ourselves into processing his death and planning for his memorial service, which is coming up in the next weekends, that's really important to us.”
Joshua continued by adding that their father also wanted them to keep performing no matter what happened to him.
“He really wanted us to do these shows,” Joshua said. “He was talking about his death, and he [said] do not let my death deter you from doing these shows. He didn't get his wish on Thursday night, but he'll be with us tonight.”
In staying true to their father’s wish, Caleb added that they were just “happy to be able to sing while we're still here and sing for him and everybody else too.”
Bekah also expressed her gratitude for all of the love and support they’ve received from fans.
“We just wanted to come out here and say thank you so much for all of your condolences and sympathy and kindness you've showered us with this whole process,” she said.
Losing a Loved One to Cancer
Grief is an inevitable and essential part of the healing process after losing a loved one to cancer. And there's definitely no one way to cope, but Doug Wendt shared his thoughts on grief in a previous interview with SurvivorNet after losing his wife Alice to ovarian cancer.
"We're never gonna move on, I don't even think I want to move on, but I do want to move forward," Wendt said. "That's an important distinction, and I encourage anybody who goes through this journey as a caregiver and then has to face loss, to think very carefully about how to move forward."
Everyone's journey of grief looks different, but therapy and support groups can also be wonderful options to explore. It's also important to keep in mind that time does not heal everything, but it certainly helps.
In an earlier interview with SurvivorNet, Camila Legaspi shared her own advice on grief after her mother died of breast cancer. For her, therapy made all the difference.
"Therapy Saved My Life": After Losing A Loved One, Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help
"Therapy saved my life," Legaspi said. "I was dealing with some really intense anxiety and depression at that point. It just changed my life, because I was so drained by all the negativity that was going on. Going to a therapist helped me realize that there was still so much out there for me, that I still had my family, that I still had my siblings."
Legaspi also wanted to remind people that even though it can be an incredibly difficult experience to process, things will get better.
"When you lose someone, it's really, really, really hard," Legaspi said. "I'm so happy that I talked to my therapist. Keep your chin up, and it's going to be OK. No matter what happens, it's going to be OK."
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