Ditched By Billionaire For Getting Cancer? Fiancé Of Youth-Seeking Tycoon Trying To Reverse Aging Sues For Emotional Damage

But after Southern was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019, Southern claims Johnson kicked her out of their Los Angeles home and went back on his $149,000 separation agreement. In a resulting lawsuit, the cancer survivor – now in remission – alleges unjust enrichment, false promise and intentional infliction of emotional distress.

“Although Ms. Southern had initial misgivings about working for Defendant Johnson, she genuinely believed that he loved her and that he intended to keep his promises,” the lawsuit states. “As a result, and in reliance on Defendant Johnson’s repeated assurances, Ms. Southern made decisions that hurt her own career and left her financially dependent on Defendant Johnson.

“Ms. Southern had endured Defendant Johnson’s pattern of manipulative and coercive behavior throughout their relationship; however, once in cancer treatment, when aggressive treatments like chemotherapy, radiation, antibody infusions, and targeted therapies left her emotionally and physically vulnerable, Defendant Johnson saw his opportunity to force Ms. Southern under an intense and targeted campaign of physical, emotional, and financial distress to execute an agreement that purported to silence Ms. Southern and curtail her entitlement to financial support, and payment of outstanding debts and equity in Kernel.”

The allegations have also garnered increasing attention because Johnson’s spending habits have recently been called into question with a reported $2 million a year going to a team of 30 doctors that have made his body like that of a 37 year old, according to the Daily Mail.

Needless to say, the relationship between Johnson and Southern does not seem like it was a healthy one. And the above story is a sad, extreme example of the strains that can happen between partners when one is diagnosed with cancer. For the sake of our readers, however, we’d like to give cancer warriors and caregivers advice that can perhaps be applied to more commonplace scenarios as we explore the ever-important topic of relationships and cancer.

Relationships and Cancer

Dealing with cancer — or any sort of health battle for that matter — can be overwhelming, so having physical and emotional support is crucial. That being said, it’s very important to know your limits on what you can handle as you undergo treatment and recover from your cancer, and that includes relationships.

“Going through [cancer] treatment is a very vulnerable and emotionally exhausting experience,” licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Marianna Strongin wrote in a column for SurvivorNet. “Noticing what you have strength for and what is feeling like too much … [is] extremely important to pay attention to as you navigate treatment.”

Dr. Strongin does note, however, that having people by your side during this “arduous chapter” of your life can be hugely beneficial.

“Studies have found consistently that loneliness is a significant risk factor for physical and mental illnesses and the trajectory of recovery,” she wrote. “Therefore, it will be important that you surround yourself with individuals who care and support you throughout your treatment.”

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For actress and melanoma survivor Jill Kargman, cancer was a true test of the strength for her relationship. In an earlier interview with SurvivorNet, Kargman said the disease “is a great way to find out if you’re with the love of your life or a shithead.”

Jill Kargman on Relationships and Cancer

“I think it presses the fast forward button on getting to the bottom of that answer, because a lot of people in middle age are kind of at a crossroads, waiting for their kids to fly the coop,” Kargman said. “I think if you’re with someone who is not supportive and kind of emotionally checked out or doesn’t tell you you’re still beautiful with that, this might not be your person.”

Tips for Caregivers

Being a caregiver is not easy. Sometimes the dynamic of a relationship can change when a partner fills that role, but it’s important to acknowledge the complexities of that role and do what you can – as the person needing care or the caregiver – to communicate needs on both ends.

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“Caregiving is the most important job in the universe, because you are there through the highs and lows,” Julie Bulger, manager of patient and family-centered care at Vanderbilt-Ingram Cancer Center in Nashville, TN, tells SurvivorNet. “You are there to support your loved one, to manage all of the daily tasks as everything is changing in your life.”

‘A Sacred And Blessed Calling’: Managing Life As a Caregiver

Bulger’s advice is to try to prevent or reduce the risk of caregiver burnout, or the stress, anger, fatigue and illness that can result from putting another person’s needs above your own.

“It is important to have some things that you can do outside of the focus of caring for somebody that you love with cancer,” she said.

According to Bulger, doing so can look as simple as taking a walk or getting a massage, but it can also mean visiting a support group for cancer caregivers and/or seeing a therapist if you’re struggling to cope with all of the weighty responsibilities. Regardless of how you chose to prioritize your own health, it’s important to understand that research shows that caregivers who take good care of themselves provide the best quality of care. So, by taking care of yourself, you are “helping your loved one in more ways than you know.”

“There’s so much evidence that outcomes are better when somebody has an incredible caregiver by their side,” Bulger said.

Jesus Trejo’s profession doesn’t revolve around caregiving, but he most certainly knows what it means to be a cancer caregiver. And, in the true spirit of his job as a stand-up comedian in Long Beach, California, his advice for caregivers is simple: laugh often.

Stand-Up Comedian & Cancer Caregiver Jesus Trejo Reminds Us That ‘Laughter is a Game-Changer’

Trejo became a caregiver for both of his parents after his mother was diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumor and his father was later faced with colon cancer. But instead of panicking and focusing on the devastating nature of the situation, the only child stepped up to care for his parents with love – and laughter. In a previous interview with SurvivorNet, Trejo explained how he put his career aside to care for his parents in their time of need while remaining positive and making time to smile along the way.

“The only advice I have for anyone watching this is laugh —  and laugh often, laugh at yourself,” Trejo told SurvivorNet. “Don’t take yourself seriously. Things are already bad. Because once you do that, it’s a game-changer.”

He also says the laughter itself might be brief, but “the effects of it just reverberate through your body, and can change an already bad situation into a better one.”

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