A Diagnosis Expedites A Couple's Vows
- Cameron Hughes, 51, and his partner Carene were married in North Carolina on Sunday after Cameron received a stage four cancer diagnosis.
- Cameron begins chemotherapy in July, and he wanted to be in ideal condition for his wedding.
- Having a supportive partner or community through cancer can help make the process easier; a diagnosis may cause mental health issues seek out formal support, like therapy, if needed.
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Cameron tells WECT, "Most of the vows you know, the traditional says 'till death do us part' and I told her I don't want that in our wedding at all, it's not allowed in our wedding.” Carene and Cameron, with the help of their community, threw the wedding together in order to be married before Cameron’s chemotherapy treatments begin in July.Carene explains the necessity of the treatment path, saying, "It was 4-6 months [left to live] if we didn't do anything, if we didn't do any treatment. Then it was 9 to 12 months with chemo, so that's just no time at all. It's less than a year so we just wanted to go ahead and do it now while we have time.”
The pair married on Sunday, surrounded by loved ones. Cameron recently got into a clinical trial at Duke, which the couple hopes will make a difference in terms of his prognosis.
Focusing on the Good Through Cancer
For people like Cameron who are faced with a life-altering diagnosis, remaining positive can be a challenge. Many people, when they are first diagnosed with cancer, experience grief, and its varying stages, along with anxiety, and even depression.
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Options are available for those suffering from their mental health after a diagnosis; seek out a skilled therapist, or ask to be connected with one. You don’t need to suffer alone, and therapy can help keep things in perspective. Dr. Zuri Murrell of Cedars-Sinai says that his patients with a positive outlook tend to do better. In an earlier interview, he says, “My patients who thrive, even with stage 4 cancer, from the time that they, about a month after they’re diagnosed, I kind of am pretty good at seeing who is going to be OK.”
“Now doesn’t that mean I’m good at saying that the cancer won’t grow,” says. Dr. Murrell. “But I’m pretty good at telling what kind of patient are going to still have this attitude and probably going to live the longest, even with bad, bad disease.And those are patients who, they have gratitude in life.”
For Cameron Hughes, he tells viewers of the local news station, “Don't take life for granted. You know, I'm 51 and I've lived a pretty good life. There's things I want to see that I may not get to see, so live life, be happy, love, one love.”.
Supportive Partners Through Cancer
Actress and melanoma survivor Jill Kargman says in an earlier interview that having a support system through cancer, like a partner or spouse or friend, is imperative. And for her, she believes that cancer is a litmus test for romantic relationships.
In an earlier interview, Kargman says, “I think cancer is a great way to find out if you’re with the love of your life or a shithead. I think it presses the fast forward button on getting to the bottom of that answer, because a lot of people in middle age are kind of at a crossroads, waiting for their kids to fly the coop.”
“And I think if you’re with someone who is not supportive and kind of emotionally checked out or doesn’t tell you you’re still beautiful,” says Kargman, “this might not be your person.”
Jill Kargman on Relationships and Cancer
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