Mindy's Mom's Advice
- Mindy Kaling, lost her mom, Dr. Swati Chokalingam, to pancreatic cancer in 2012, and is raising awarness around this disease.
- Kaling shared with the hosts of The View the greatest piece of advice her mom ever gave her, that she carries with her to this day.
- The loss of a parent may lead to intense grief; seeking help during this time may ease the grief process for some.
Detecting Pancreatic Cancer Early Is Crucial
Mom’s Diagnosis & Her Advice to Mindy
As Mindy shared, her mom, Dr. Swati Chokalingam, was diagnosed with the disease in 2011 and passed from it in 2012. Pancreatic cancer can be an aggressive, and quickly progressing disease. Dr. Anirban Maitra, Co-Leader of the Pancreatic Cancer Moon Shot at MD Anderson Cancer Center, told SurvivorNet in an earlier interview, “Because the pancreas is inside the abdomen, it often doesn’t have symptoms that would tell you that something is wrong with your pancreas. By the time individuals walk into the clinic with symptoms like jaundice, weight loss, back pain, or diabetes, it’s often very late in the stage of the disease. Each year in the United States, about 53,000 patients get pancreatic cancer. And unfortunately, most will die from this disease within a few months to a year or so from the diagnosis.”
While on The View, Mindy also shared some intimate advice her mom gave her, which has served her well over the years. “My mom gave me a ton of advice but the advice I remember almost daily is that you have to be your own best friend. You know, I didn’t really understand that. And when I went through my destructive periods in my 20s and even in my early 30s, whether it was falling in love with the wrong person, or not taking care of myself physically, that advice has always shocked myself back into better behavior. And that’s advice that I would give my daughter as well.”
Coping with Loss of a Parent
Loss of a parent to cancer often leads to feelings of deep grief. During this time, it’s important to be gentle with yourself, and know that there’s no right way to grieve, and there’s no “normal” timeline. Everyone experiences the process differently, and the loss of a parent can be particularly devastating and traumatic.
Related: The Benefit of Support Networks
After a cancer loss, many find comfort in outlets like therapy, support groups, or, simply, leaning on friends and family during this difficult time. Opening up to others, and showing vulnerability, can make the grief journey feel less lonely.
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