When an Unexpected Diagnosis Adds Unexpected Wrinkle In a Relationship
- ‘80s heavy metal rock band “Junkyard” frontman David Roach, 46, is battling an aggressive form of skin cancer that recently left him hospitalized. The cancer is affecting his head, neck, and throat.
- Roach was diagnosed with squamous cell carcinoma, which is a common type of skin cancer that forms in the squamous cells—the flat cells that make up the middle and outer layers of your skin.
- Although squamous cell carcinoma is not usually life-threatening, it can become serious if left untreated, as it may grow deeper and spread to other parts of the body.
- David Roach and his fiancée, Jennifer, have turned to GoFundMe to help with growing treatment costs since she had to step away from her full-time job to be David’s full-time caregiver.
- Caregivers—whether spouses, parents, children, siblings, or close friends—take on many roles to support loved ones facing serious health challenges like cancer.
- Patients can seek help navigating treatment costs by speaking with a financial counselor at the hospital or participating in clinical trials.
“We want to thank you all for the overwhelming support and love you’ve shown us during this incredibly challenging time,” Jennifer shared in a heartfelt Instagram post, featuring Roach receiving treatment in a hospital setting.
Read MoreView this post on InstagramRoach and his bandmates have been performing as “Junkyard” since 1987, releasing fan-favorite songs like “Hollywood,” “Slippin’ Away,” and “Blooze.”
While not all details of Roach’s diagnosis have been made public, it’s been confirmed that he is battling squamous cell carcinoma, a common type of skin cancer.
According to the National Cancer Institute, “Squamous cells are thin, flat cells that look like fish scales, and are found in the tissue that forms the surface of the skin, the lining of the hollow organs of the body, and the lining of the respiratory and digestive tracts. Most cancers of the anus, cervix, head and neck, and vagina are squamous cell carcinomas.”
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As Roach’s condition requires ongoing care, Jennifer’s decision to be by his side full-time has come with significant financial strain.
A GoFundMe campaign created to help the couple explains: “While they have applied for disability and full-time caregivers’ assistance, it is an extremely long waiting period to go through the processing and receive approval. This has put them in a dire situation.”
Taking on the role of caregiver for a loved one with cancer is an extraordinary act of love, but one that often comes with physical, emotional, and financial challenges.
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Understanding Roach’s Diagnosis
Squamous cell carcinoma is a common type of skin cancer that forms in the squamous cells—the flat cells that make up the middle and outer layers of your skin.
Although it’s usually not life-threatening, it can become serious if left untreated, as it may grow deeper and spread to other parts of the body.
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One of the leading causes is long-term exposure to ultraviolet (UV) radiation from the sun or tanning beds.
According to the American Cancer Society, about 2 out of every 10 cases of skin cancer are squamous cell carcinoma.
Caregivers Make a Significant Difference for Patients Day to Day
Becoming a caregiver for someone with cancer is both a deep act of love and a significant responsibility. This role can include attending doctor visits, supporting treatments, helping with everyday tasks, and—perhaps most importantly—offering emotional comfort.
Caregivers often emerge from a patient’s close support circle: a spouse, parent, sibling, friend, or even a child. These individuals take on multiple roles to ease the journey for someone they care deeply about.
WATCH: Caregivers help make patients’ lives easier during treatment.
Typical responsibilities include:
- Accompanying the patient to appointments
- Asking questions and taking notes
- Providing transportation
- Staying present during treatments
- Tracking side effects and symptoms
- Connecting with social workers or patient navigators
- Assisting with daily activities
- Offering steady emotional support
While caregivers serve as pillars for their loved ones, it’s essential that they don’t neglect their own need for support. Social workers and patient advocates can help guide caregivers through treatment logistics, mental health resources, and financial aid options.
“Patient navigators can function differently at different hospitals,” said Dr. Kathie-Ann Joseph, surgical oncologist at NYU Langone Health’s Perlmutter Cancer Center. “We have a really wonderful program at [NYU] where we use lay navigators, meaning they’re not nurses, although you can use nurses or social workers who pretty much help newly diagnosed cancer patients through the continuum of care.”
How to Support a Partner Diagnosed with Cancer
A partner’s cancer diagnosis can bring on a flood of emotions—grief, confusion, fear. But a diagnosis isn’t the end of the story. Couples can navigate these challenges together by finding strength, staying informed, and building emotional resilience.
Supportive strategies may include:
- Speaking with a therapist to process feelings
- Having open conversations with your partner
- Learning about the diagnosis and treatment together
- Joining support groups or meeting others in similar situations
The Hidden Costs of Cancer Care: What Patients Should Know
Cancer treatment doesn’t just take a toll on the body—it can be “incredibly expensive,” said Laurie Ostacher, a Behavioral Health Clinician at Stanford Health Care, in a previous conversation with SurvivorNet.
“How much coverage you have depends on the insurance plan that you purchased. Sometimes, when folks are younger, they might purchase a plan with a high deductible, assuming they won’t get ill. So, really, it’s helping them think about and kind of try to plan for the expenses that will be coming up. Oftentimes, your cancer center will have a financial counselor who will help you with that, who can kind of sit down and go through the costs.”
WATCH: Navigating Cancer Costs
The overwhelming financial burden that impacts patients and their families is known as financial toxicity—a term used to describe how the cost of treatment impacts patients and their families.
For many patients, this goes far beyond stress over medical bills. It can mean making impossible choices. Some people have to stretch their medications by cutting pills in half or delaying refills simply because they can’t afford them.
Talking to your doctor is one of the first steps toward managing these costs. Most cancer centers have staff who specialize in financial navigation and can help you explore affordable medication and treatment options.
Ostacher also emphasizes looking into disability programs, especially for those juggling treatment and employment:
“Most people are working when they’re diagnosed, and finances are a significant issue. So, for those who want to take some time off and can take time off, I will talk to them about the disability programs that exist,” she explained.
“There’s the state disability program. Every state has a disability program. They vary from state to state. And then there’s also the federal disability program. So, I’ll help folks kind of sit down, look at their income, estimate how much money they will get, and how much money they will collect from disability, and how to go about the application process.”
Another option to consider: paid clinical trials. These not only give access to cutting-edge treatments but may also offer financial support.
“There are also parts of clinical trials, which may pay, for example, travel or a hotel night, so you can stay close to the institution,” said Dr. Nina Shah, a hematologist at UCSF Medical Center.
“Some drug companies will also allow you to get certain drugs through a patient assistance program. And we’ve used those many times. It’s important for you to know that you are your best advocate at each point,” Dr. Shah explained.
Questions to Ask Your Doctor
If you are worried about cancer treatment costs, here are some questions you can ask your doctor to help you find solutions.
- What will my treatment cost?
- Will my medical insurance cover my treatment?
- How long do you expect my cancer treatment to last?
- What options do I have if I can’t afford my medication?
- Can you recommend a financial counselor or navigator to talk with?
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